"I ask you right here please to agree with me, that a scar is never ugly. That is what the scar makers want us to think. But you and I, we must make an agreement to defy them. We must see all scars as beauty. Okay? This will be our secret. Because take it from me, a scar does not form on the dying. A scar means that I am alive. And that I have survived."
I cannot even begin to tell you how this touched me as I read these words. Yes, I wear scars on my knees, as I wear them on my heart. But I have come to learn to embrace my scars as my beauty marks. Both inside and out.
And I have come to learn to wear them as the words written on the pages of my storybook called life. And I have come to learn to wear them like the jewels on a crown I call gracious and brave and strong and vulnerable and noble.
And yes, each of these scars... My scars and your scars. They mean we are alive.
"Give thanks for unknown blessings already on their way."
Native American Proverb
Always in advance...
It is as though we make those blessings and miracles feel welcome, invited, and appreciated. Like a dear friend. It is like opening the door for them and the table is set and fresh flowers in a vase. And your arms are open, ready to embrace them...
All that together, is giving thanks in advance. And it shows that you trust. Just like a dear friend.
So never forget, always give thanks. And always in advance.
1. Be Impeccable With Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to
speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your
word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a
projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to
the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless
3. Don't Make Assumptions Find the courage to
ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with
others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and
drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your
4. Always Do Your Best Your best is going to change
from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as
opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you
will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret. Don Miguel Ruiz My Beautiful Words on Facebook
"Today, I will live fully and completely. And with all my heart. I will find joy in all it is I am to do. I will find respect in all it is I want to do. I am calm. I am confident. I am within me. I am."
"We are human. We are not perfect. We are alive. We try things. We make mistakes. We stumble. We fall. We get hurt. We rise again. We try again. We keep learning. We keep growing. And we are thankful for this priceless opportunity called life."
"Believe in your dreams. Believe in today. Believe that you are loved. Believe that you make a difference. Believe we can build a better world. Believe when others might not. Believe there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Believe that you might be that light for someone else. Believe that the best is yet to be. Believe in each other. Believe in yourself. Because I believe in you."
"The grass is not, in fact, always greener on the other side of the fence. Fences have nothing to do with it. The grass is most green where it is watered. And when crossing over fences, carry water with you. And always tend the grass wherever you may be."
"This is what I have learned. We must allow ourselves to be seen. Deeply seen. And vulnerably seen. We must allow ourselves to love with our whole hearts, even though there is no guarantee. And to practise gratitude and joy, even in those moments of fear and when we are wondering, 'Can I love you this much?'. Because to feel vulnerable means you are alive. Believe that you are enough."
"The Universe invites you now to be someone who is making a life, rather than a living. Move toward your passion. Express through your daily work and your daily activities what it is that lights up your soul. Do not believe those who say that you cannot do this. Do it anyway."
"Along your pathway of life you will observe that you are not the only traveler. There are others who need your help. There are feet to steady, hands to grasp, minds to encourage, hearts to inspire and souls to save."
"Once a year, go someplace you have never been before."
And where would you want to go today?
Reading these words, I don't believe it's only about travelling to far away places that one has never been before. Although that's always a journey I love.
I like to think that what the Dalai Lama truly means here, is also the places that are within you, or simply before you. Right where we stand, there is a world to be discovered.
It might just be, going for a walk in your neighbourhood, and of course,walking down a street that you've never
walked down before. It might just mean, breaking a habit. Habits aren't
always the things we do, it's also the places we go. The same café, ordering the same coffee. The same grocery store, picking up the same foods. Maybe this is a call to simply try something different. Try a different café, taste a different coffee, taste a different tea. Discover a new recipe and and lose the word inconvenient and drive out of your way to the farmer's market. It might just mean, walking into a church you've never been to before. It might just mean, going to the museum you've so often said you'd visit, but have never taken the time to actually make the time. And to not just think about it, but to do it.
It might just mean, taking a different route back home from work. Consciously saying there is a different way.
And the wonder of it all?
When we take the dare, and we take the time. We discover, we explore, we learn... And you never know who you might meet, or what you might see along the way.
Be playful with your journeys. Let your heart navigate you, your instinct and intuition. At every new crossroad, with every question asked while standing in line and you hear the words "What will it be today?"...
Let your heart answer that question for you.
"Once a year, go someplace you have never been before", could soon be, "Every day, do something you haven never done before."
"I have learned that no matter what happens, or how bad it seems today, life does go on, and it will be better tomorrow. I have learned that you can tell a lot about a person by the way he or she handles these three things: a rainy day, lost luggage, and tangled Christmas tree lights. I have learned that regardless of your relationship with your parents, you will miss them when they are gone from your life. I have learned that making a "living" is not the same thing as making a "life." I have learned that life sometimes gives you a second chance. I have learned that you should not go through life with a catcher's mitt on both hands, you need to be able to throw something back. I have learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision. I have learned that even when I have pains, I do not have to be one. I have learned that every day you should reach out and touch someone. People love a warm hug, or just a friendly pat on the back. I have learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel. I have learned that I still have a lot to learn."
"I will never know, and neither will you, of the life you did not choose. We will only know that whatever that sister life was, it was important and beautiful and not ours. It was the ghost ship that did not carry us. There is nothing to do but salute it from the shore."
"You want to become aware of your thoughts and choose your thoughts carefully and you want to have fun with this. Because you are the masterpiece of your own life. You are the Michelangelo. And the David you are sculpting is you."
"Live juicy. Stamp Out conformity. Stay in bed all day. Dream of gypsy wagons. Find snails making love. Develop an astounding appetite for books. Drink sunsets. Draw out your feelings. Amaze yourself. Be ridiculous. Stop worrying. Now. If not now, then when? Make yes your favorite word. Marry yourself. Dry your clothes in the sun. Eat mangos naked. Keep toys in the bathtub. Spin yourself dizzy. Hang upside down. Follow a child. Celebrate an old person. Send a love letter to yourself. Be advanced. Try endearing. Invent new ways to love. Transform negatives. Delight someone. Wear pajamas to a drive in movie. Allow yourself to feel rich without money. Be who you truly are and the money will follow. Believe in everything. You are always on your way to a miracle. The miracle is you."
"The time is ripe for looking back over the day, the week, the year, and trying to figure out where we have come from and where we are going to, for sifting through the things we have done and the things we have left undone for a clue to who we are and who, for better or worse, we are becoming. But again and again we avoid the long thoughts. We cling to the present out of wariness of the past. And why not, after all? We get confused. We need such escape as we can find. But there is a deeper need yet, I think, and that is the need - not all the time, surely, but from time to time - to enter that still room within us all where the past lives on as a part of the present, where the dead are alive again, where we are most alive ourselves to turnings and to where our journeys have brought us. The name of the room is "Remember". The room where with patience, with charity, with quietness of heart, we remember consciously to remember the lives we have lived."